Dahican at sunrise © Jojie Alcantara 2012

“When we’re incomplete, we’re always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we’re still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on–series polygamy–until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter.” ~ Tom Robbins

Catching the sunrise in Dahican Beach, Mati, Davao Oriental (with my sister as my model)

Remembering Jerry Mcguire’s classic lines, “You complete me,” I honestly think otherwise, much as it sounds so romantic and cheesy.  I feel that a person has to achieve a substantial amount of self-esteem and fulfillment in order to be able to manage a healthy relationship with others.  However, a person should also be able to accept contentment with being alone and blessedly single by choice.

In the long run, it is how you treat yourself that matters most.