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Moving forward in 2023

“Sometimes you find yourself in the middle of nowhere and sometimes in the middle of nowhere you find yourself.” ~Stacy Westfall

Advice from a sea turtle

In Kembali Coast of Island Garden City of Samal, it has been observed by Project Development Consultant Hitoshi Onozawa and his staff for a few years that several green sea turtles (Chelonia mydas) bury their eggs beneath the warm sands at night.

Giving thanks and rewarding

“When you arise in the morning, give thanks for the morning light, for your life and strength. Give thanks for your food, and the joy of living. If you see no reason for giving thanks, the fault lies with yourself.” ~ Chief Tecumseh Shawnee These locals run out to help boats coming in at dawn.  In return, they get a few rewarded fish for breakfast from grateful fishermen. Shouldn’t humanity be as simple as this?

Dahican at sunrise © Jojie Alcantara 2012

Who completes you?

“When we’re incomplete, we’re always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we’re still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on–series polygamy–until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter.” ~ Tom Robbins Catching the sunrise in Dahican Beach, Mati, Davao Oriental (with my sister as my model) Remembering Jerry Mcguire’s classic lines, “You complete me,” I honestly think otherwise, much as it sounds so romantic and cheesy.  I feel that a person has to achieve a substantial amount of self-esteem and fulfillment in order to be able to manage a healthy relationship with others.  However, a person should also be able to accept contentment with being alone and …